103. The Unapologetic Art of Having It All: Why You Can't Do It All At Once—A Conversation with Legend Pat Benatar

In this episode of Booked Out with Bre, I am absolutely honored and bursting with excitement to introduce you to a personal legend and a woman who perfectly embodies the unapologetic pursuit of a big life: the one and only Pat Benatar! Pat is not only a multi-award-winning music icon but also a devoted wife, mother, and now children's author, and she is sharing the unedited, raw truth behind building an empire while keeping your family unit solid.

This conversation is a masterful journey into life, career, and alignment. Pat shares her incredibly honest story—from manifesting a career after quitting the teacher track to her legendary, "lightning bolt" meet-cute with her musical partner and husband, Neil Giraldo ("Spyder"). She is living proof that you can follow your soul’s calling, but her wisdom comes with a crucial caveat for all mothers striving for success.

Here’s what I dive into with Pat:

• Her Incredible Origin Story: From a working-class, loving upbringing to a "Julie Andrews" sounding singer who had to teach herself how to rock and roll.

• The Lightning Bolt: The legendary, tension-filled story of meeting Neil "Spyder" Giraldo when both were unavailable—and knowing instantly they were destined to create art (and family) together.

• Rock Star Motherhood: Navigating touring for 47 years, building cribs into tour buses, and the intentional effort to keep her daughters' home life "normal" despite the chaos.

• The Critical Caveat: Pat’s most important wisdom for ambitious women: "You can do everything, you just can't do it all at once."—and why rejecting that lie is essential for peace.

• The "Fourth Quarter": Finding calm, intention, and abundant presence in this stage of life, and the amazing "redo" of being a grandparent.

• Legacy & Love: The sweet inspiration behind her new children's book, My Grandma and Grandpa Rock, drawn from her grandchildren's assumption that all grandparents perform on stage.

If you’re ready to stop striving for 1000% perfection and start building a solid, abundant life that honors your calling and your family, this episode will anchor you in the most important truth of all. Pat’s wisdom is pure gold!

 

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Connect with Pat

Listen to Her Music: https://open.spotify.com/artist/43mhFhQ4JAknA7Ik1bOZuV

Her Book (My Grandma and Grandpa Rock!):

https://a.co/d/bFErJl6

 

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